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Child Rearing in Allendale, Bergen County, NJ

Morrisa Drobnick, LCSW, staff writer and advice columnist of “KIDS Magazine,” answers the following:

Q. I thought my husband would be different as a parent. I find myself disappointed in him a lot of the time. We seem to approach all aspects of parenting from different sides. We need some help on making this a partnership.

A. No matter how well-grounded a marriage is, disappointment can easily emerge in the transition to parenthood.

It’s important for you and your spouse to treat your different parenting styles as assets. Make sure you both communicate. When you feel tension, discuss it right away. Don’t let anger linger. Be easy on yourself and each other. Try to remember you are in this together. Enjoy your children together. Watch your spouse laugh and have fun with your children. Just as children grow, so does your relationship.

The child rearing years can be the biggest challenge to your partnership. If you make peace with this reality of parenting, you may unexpectedly find that you get your wish.

Mars & Venus Counseling Center is always here for you. Call us at 201-692-0508.



Teaneck Pre-Marital Counseling

Pre-Marital Counseling in Teaneck NJ

Marriage is a huge step for anyone considering it. While it can be an enhancement to your life, leading to many years of happiness, this does not happen by chance. A marriage contains many moving parts and thats why Mars & Venus wants to help you and your future spouse. Using the unparalleled wisdom exhibited in Dr. John Gray’s landmark book, “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus,” our Teaneck pre-marital counseling is focused on giving the two of you the direction and guidance that will lay a solid foundation for your marriage to be strong, filled with love and mutual respect.

It is undeniable that marriage changes a relationship. Even if you’re currently living with your future spouse, the commitment that marriage represents is something that exerts significant gravity. Our Teaneck pre-marital counseling will give you that crucial road map, like a GPS for your relationship, keeping you both headed in the same direction and helping you to understand each other’s wants, needs, and motivations.

We know that when the two of you take the time and put in the effort to participate in our Teaneck pre-marital counseling, you’ve already taken one giant step in the right direction. Too often, what should be minor disagreements can turn into full blown arguments and the tendency is to blame each other instead of trying to solve the problem at hand. We work with you to help you find common ground with each other, build bridges, and help you to understand the obstacles that can derail a marriage if they’re not avoided. Whether you’re currently dealing with relationship challenges or you simply want to prevent future challenges from resulting in threats to your happiness, we’re confident that we can help and greatly increase your odds of a more fulfilling marriage. Call us today and schedule a session.

Pre-Marital Counselor Teaneck
691 Cedar Lane
Teaneck, New Jersey 07666
(201) 467-4173





15 Tips to Prepare Siblings for the Baby’s Arrival

15 Tips to Prepare Siblings for the Baby’s Arrival – Bergen County, Northern, NJ
By Morrisa Drobnick, LCSW

The amount and time of preparation for a new baby depends upon whether your child likes to look forward to things or gets too impatient if told about things too soon. Do, however, start as soon as the child is able to recognize the pregnancy.

The following 15 tips are offered to help in the preparation of your child(ren) for this important event.

1. Present the new baby from a child’s point of view. Discuss that babies are cute, but they can also be a lot of trouble. They cry a lot, mess their diapers, spit up, and smell bad. They demand a lot of attention because they must be fed, bathed, diapered, etc. If and when the child feels left out or jealous, encourage him to go to you and talk about it. Let them know that you understand that it’s not easy to share.

2. If a move to a new room or bed is needed, do this as early as possible in the pregnancy, so the child has less reason to feel “shoved out” when the baby arrives.

3. Let the child share by participating in discussions of how the baby will be cared for, what things he will need, where he will sleep, etc. Let him help get things ready for the new baby. Include the child on shopping expeditions for baby. Whenever possible, let him pick out things for the baby.

4. Show the child picture books about new babies and, if possible, visit in a home that has an infant, so that he realizes this is not going to be an instant playmate.

5. Talk with the child about the advantages of either sex and the unpredictability of this, so he won’t have his heart set on one or the other.

6. Take the child along on at least one visit to the doctor’s office for a prenatal visit. Let him hear the baby’s heartbeat, for instance.

7. Tell the child about Mom and Dad’s going to the hospital in the middle of day or night, and that this is part of the unpredictability of a baby’s birth. He needs to know who will be caring for him at that time and during the remainder of the hospital stay.

8. Whenever possible, let children to visit Mom and the new baby while they are still in the hospital. Phoning frequently will also be a tremendous help.

9. It’s a good idea to have a present (a new doll is ideal) to give to your child when you bring the new baby home from the hospital.

10. When friends come to call, encourage them to include the older child in the excitement as well. Let the child show the baby off to the company if he likes to.

11. Allow even the youngest child to hold the baby. This can be done sitting on the floor with carpet or a blanket, in the middle of the bed, or in a large stuffed chair. Also, allow him to help to whatever extent he can – fetching diapers, bottle, etc.

12. Father can help a great deal by spending time with the older child first when he gets home from work.

13. Mothers, too, should remember to spend precious alone time with older child as often as possible.

14. Jealousy may be expressed indirectly by showing too much concern and affection for the baby, refusing to go to school, demanding Mom’s attention, exhibiting naughty behavior, not eating, not sleeping, or by loss of toilet training, etc. Or, it may be expressed quite openly by a preschooler’s physical attacks on the baby. For this reason, it is best never to leave them alone together!

15. Be careful not to impose on an older sibling by turning him into a constant babysitter or by giving him responsibilities concerning the baby that are beyond his capabilities.

Stress and the Need for Counseling in Bergen County

• Do you feel constantly stressed out and on edge?
• Or are you tired of your partner having a short fuse with you?
• Is stress negatively affecting your relationships?
• Are you constantly arguing?
• Are you feeling tired and fatigued all the time?
• Are you having difficulty falling and staying asleep?
• Is stress making you sick?
• Are you having trouble concentrating?
• Are you moody and irritable much of time?
• Do you experience constant stress?

Imagine what it would be like if you understood how to better cope with stress, and how to help the other cope with stress more effectively as well. How would it feel to have a warm, loving and supportive relationship with your partner once again? To not be anxious all the time or to feel like you are walking on eggshells? How would it feel to be in a relationship in which you truly felt supported and understood? This doesn’t have to live only in your imagination. It can be your reality. You can have a less stressful life and a more satisfying relationship.

When you need professional counseling for stress and anxiety, please contact us at the Mars & Venus Counseling Center.




Teaneck Marriage Counseling

Marriage Counselors in Teaneck

Keeping a marriage together requires dedication, love, and respect. But sometimes it also takes the help of professionals. Your marriage is worth it and at Mars & Venus, we’re here to provide the expertise that can be the crucial link that keeps your marriage strong and on the right track. Our Teaneck marriage counseling experts use the wisdom gleaned from the book “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” by Dr. John Gray and use it as a foundation for a method of couples counseling that is designed to help the two of you understand each other and the reasons why each of you feel as you do.

It is simple enough to say that a couple should understand and respect each other, but finding a way to do that isn’t always that simple. Knowing that men and women have different ways of thinking and feeling and becoming acquainted with the ideas that allow a man and woman to reconcile those differences and to embrace them instead of seeing them as a problem are a big part of the solution. It’s all about healing the relationship and then allowing it to grow and flourish. This takes communication and to get there, our Teaneck marriage counseling experts use strategies that are taught and licensed by Dr. John Gray.

Just having the motivation to contact us is a positive sign that the two of you are prepared to put in the effort that is necessary to save your relationship. It’s important that you see the process as one that doesn’t assign blame, but rather as one that finds common ground, builds bridges, and seeks to find the best way for the two of you to both feel good about your marriage. Our Teaneck marriage counseling experts want to work with you to get past the issues you’re currently dealing with. Working together as a team, that’s exactly what we’ll do. Call us today. Your marriage is worth it.

Marriage Counselor Teaneck
691 Cedar Lane
Teaneck, New Jersey 07666
(201) 467-4173

Teaneck Professional Coaching vs. Professional Counseling

What is the difference between professional life coaching and professional counseling? Which one do you need? (Pssst, Mars & Venus provides both in Teaneck, Oradell, and Ramsey, NJ!)

The more you are focused on a specific goal, the more life coaching is for you. Life coaches will provide you with accountability, motivate you, offer support, and help you build internal strengths, self-confidence, and self-empowerment. They will help you understand and overcome obstacles and decide what direction to take. They will tap into your dreams and unrealized dreams and help make those dreams reality. Coaching is a mentoring relationship.

Counseling is necessary when the unresolved issues and the past hurts of childhood interfere with fulfillment, satisfaction, and success in the present and future. These hurts can manifest as anxiety, depression, addictions, dysfunctional relationships, or feelings of emptiness. Counselors have numerous tools that will help you overcome your blocks to success and happiness.

Professional coaching is also not covered by insurance while counseling is. Life coaches and counselors also adhere to a different code of ethics. Also, life coaches can communicate to clients nationally and internationally via phone or internet, while counselors generally cannot provide therapy to clients who are outside of the state in which the counselor has his/her license.

The Mars & Venus Counseling Center is the best of both worlds.  Its staff is accomplished in both professional counseling and coaching. We offer a goal-focused approach and more specialized help if deeper obstacles become apparent during our work together.

Whether it be coaching or counseling, you will feel that we will build together a relationship of trust and you will gain a sense of hope that will maximize your ability to reach your goals.