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Teaneck Child Counseling

Expert kids counselor in Teaneck

Teaneck Child Counseling

Teaneck Child Counseling

Childhood can be a trying and confusing time for both the young child and its parents. The stresses on the child only grow stronger as it ages into adolescence and the teen years. Teaneck child counseling at our Mars & Venus Counseling Center has been aiding children and families as they face the many difficult problems associated with growth, behavior and relationship development. Our counseling center helps patients with a wide variety of issues and problems from relationship issues to family problems to addiction to grief counseling to depression to self-esteem issues and more. Our expertly trained staff includes counselors that specialize in these various areas.

Our Teaneck child counseling center offers individual specialized counseling services with expertise in varying symptoms and diagnosis to meet the needs of young people. Whether it is a behavioral issue or trouble building relationships, low self-esteem or body image issues our center employs counselors who have extensive training in working with young children, even those that are not highly verbal or maybe introverted. There are also counselors who have a great deal of experience working with teenage clients whose issues may stem from peer interactions, relationships, sexual issues or confusion, body image, bullying or authority issues and family relationships. The teenage years are a critical time for most developing young adults and during this time many teens turn to their peers or social media for guidance, which may not be the place parents want them to turn. Often when parents have a hard time reaching their adolescent children our counselors can offer them a trusting adult to turn to.

Our Teaneck child counseling center offers young peoples’ therapy in individual sessions with just the child and the counselor or as a family therapy session. Often we may start with just the child, or the child and parents separately and then turn to a family therapy setting later in the process. Having the family together during counseling is beneficial because it can help resolve any issues that exist between the parents and child or among siblings. Family sessions work well with teenage clients because the therapist can help establish a dialogue between the members of the family, especially the teen and parents, preventing discussions from automatically turning into arguments before the issues are settled. If your child is having trouble socially, behaviorally or in school bring them by our counseling center where they can be evaluated in a stress-free setting.

691 Cedar Lane,
Teaneck, New Jersey 07666
(201) 467-4173

Child Rearing in Allendale, Bergen County, NJ

Morrisa Drobnick, LCSW, staff writer and advice columnist of “KIDS Magazine,” answers the following:

Q. I thought my husband would be different as a parent. I find myself disappointed in him a lot of the time. We seem to approach all aspects of parenting from different sides. We need some help on making this a partnership.

A. No matter how well-grounded a marriage is, disappointment can easily emerge in the transition to parenthood.

It’s important for you and your spouse to treat your different parenting styles as assets. Make sure you both communicate. When you feel tension, discuss it right away. Don’t let anger linger. Be easy on yourself and each other. Try to remember you are in this together. Enjoy your children together. Watch your spouse laugh and have fun with your children. Just as children grow, so does your relationship.

The child rearing years can be the biggest challenge to your partnership. If you make peace with this reality of parenting, you may unexpectedly find that you get your wish.

Mars & Venus Counseling Center is always here for you. Call us at 201-692-0508.

 

 

15 Tips to Prepare Siblings for the Baby’s Arrival

15 Tips to Prepare Siblings for the Baby’s Arrival – Bergen County, Northern, NJ
By Morrisa Drobnick, LCSW

The amount and time of preparation for a new baby depends upon whether your child likes to look forward to things or gets too impatient if told about things too soon. Do, however, start as soon as the child is able to recognize the pregnancy.

The following 15 tips are offered to help in the preparation of your child(ren) for this important event.

1. Present the new baby from a child’s point of view. Discuss that babies are cute, but they can also be a lot of trouble. They cry a lot, mess their diapers, spit up, and smell bad. They demand a lot of attention because they must be fed, bathed, diapered, etc. If and when the child feels left out or jealous, encourage him to go to you and talk about it. Let them know that you understand that it’s not easy to share.

2. If a move to a new room or bed is needed, do this as early as possible in the pregnancy, so the child has less reason to feel “shoved out” when the baby arrives.

3. Let the child share by participating in discussions of how the baby will be cared for, what things he will need, where he will sleep, etc. Let him help get things ready for the new baby. Include the child on shopping expeditions for baby. Whenever possible, let him pick out things for the baby.

4. Show the child picture books about new babies and, if possible, visit in a home that has an infant, so that he realizes this is not going to be an instant playmate.

5. Talk with the child about the advantages of either sex and the unpredictability of this, so he won’t have his heart set on one or the other.

6. Take the child along on at least one visit to the doctor’s office for a prenatal visit. Let him hear the baby’s heartbeat, for instance.

7. Tell the child about Mom and Dad’s going to the hospital in the middle of day or night, and that this is part of the unpredictability of a baby’s birth. He needs to know who will be caring for him at that time and during the remainder of the hospital stay.

8. Whenever possible, let children to visit Mom and the new baby while they are still in the hospital. Phoning frequently will also be a tremendous help.

9. It’s a good idea to have a present (a new doll is ideal) to give to your child when you bring the new baby home from the hospital.

10. When friends come to call, encourage them to include the older child in the excitement as well. Let the child show the baby off to the company if he likes to.

11. Allow even the youngest child to hold the baby. This can be done sitting on the floor with carpet or a blanket, in the middle of the bed, or in a large stuffed chair. Also, allow him to help to whatever extent he can – fetching diapers, bottle, etc.

12. Father can help a great deal by spending time with the older child first when he gets home from work.

13. Mothers, too, should remember to spend precious alone time with older child as often as possible.

14. Jealousy may be expressed indirectly by showing too much concern and affection for the baby, refusing to go to school, demanding Mom’s attention, exhibiting naughty behavior, not eating, not sleeping, or by loss of toilet training, etc. Or, it may be expressed quite openly by a preschooler’s physical attacks on the baby. For this reason, it is best never to leave them alone together!

15. Be careful not to impose on an older sibling by turning him into a constant babysitter or by giving him responsibilities concerning the baby that are beyond his capabilities.