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Marriage Therapist Waldwick

Marriage Therapy in Waldwick

Marriage Therapist Waldwick

Marriage Therapist Waldwick

If you are looking for an excellent marriage therapist who can provide you with effective and successful marriage therapy, you should contact us at Mars & Venus. Our center’s Director and Co-Director are Richard Drobnick and Morrisa Drobnick. When you need the services of an excellent marriage therapist Waldwick, you should contact us at our practice, and we know we can provide you with the help that you and your spouse need to have a more successful marriage.

At our counseling center, we provide individual and couples therapy. Our marriage therapist Waldwick can help you and your spouse improve your marriage in many ways. At our counseling center, we use the book “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus,” as the basis for our couples work. The basis of this book is that men and women are different in many ways, and the difficult goal should be to learn to communicate more effectively with each other. It is not natural for men and women to understand things using the same language, so our therapist can help our couples learn to communicate better with each other. The author of the book, Dr. John Gray, has developed a complete clinical approach to couples counseling. This is the systematic approach that is used here at our counseling center. Our therapists have been licensed by Dr. John Great to successfully provide this service. Through our marriage counseling, you will learn how to better understand, respect, and honor the differences between yourself and your partner. During our marriage therapy you will learn not only what your needs are, but what your partner’s needs are, and how you can each successfully meet your partner’s needs. We also will work so that you and your partner can improve your communication skills so that your relationship can heal and grow.

For an appointment to meet with our marriage therapist Waldwick, simply contact us today for an appointment.

Mars & Venus
691 Cedar Lane
Teaneck, New Jersey 07666
(201) 467-4173

Teaneck Marriage Therapist

Pre-Marital Counseling in Teaneck

Teaneck marriage therapist

Teaneck marriage therapist

Getting married is a major milestone in life and many people look forward to the day where they can finally marry the person that they love. But getting married is more than just a fairy tale, however, and it does take a lot of work and understanding in order for a marriage to be successful. With the divorce rate at a pretty unfavorable high in this country, it is not at all unusual for couples to feel afraid or uncertain about an upcoming marriage because of the statistics. Here at Mars & Venus our Teaneck marriage therapist can help you and your fiancée prepare with pre-marital counseling and marriage therapy to help.

There are plenty of things to consider before making the commitment to marry someone else. Love does play a huge part of it, but love takes work, understanding, and above all communication. In order to really trust your partner and in order to understand one another on a whole other level, you may need to see a specialist who can help. Here at
Mars & Venus, our Teaneck marriage therapist can help provide you with pre-marriage counseling that can help you prepare for your upcoming commitment. Using the book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, our therapist will apply relevant concepts and methods of Dr. John Gray to your specific situation. Each person is different, thus making every couple different. Our therapist will work with you, get to know you as a couple and will tailor your pre-marriage counseling in order to meet your temperaments as well as your expectations. If you have any problems or relationship issues, our therapist can help you address and resolve them prior to getting married. Once you and your spouse-to-be undergo pre-marital counseling, you will be better prepared to handle whatever comes your way once you finally get married.

If you are considering getting married but want to make sure that you are prepared to make the commitment with the person that you love, then our Teaneck marriage therapist can provide you with the advice and guidance that you may need to help you along. Call us here at Mars & Venus to schedule an appointment today.

691 Cedar Lane,
Teaneck, New Jersey 07666
(201) 467-4173

Assuming the Positive with Your Partner in Bergen County, Northern NJ

You give your favorite politicians the benefit of the doubt—why not your partner?

The political season is upon us—whether we like it or not—and, if we are like most people, we will tend to favor one political party, candidate, or political view over another. If our party or candidate has a particular stand on the economy, foreign affairs, healthcare, same sex relationships, etc., we believe that they are correct. Whenever our party or candidate takes a position, we tend to support it completely and loudly profess the other point of view as misguided thinking.

Even if our political party or candidate does something questionable, we will find ways to immediately defend them. We will hunt down any reason that our preferred political analysts will conjure up to make what they said or did seem okay. We will say that the other side has made far stupider mistakes, is far less experienced in these important matters, is ethically challenged, or that our party’s problems were inherited. We may even exclaim that the political strategy is misunderstood because it’s ahead of its time and, therefore, brilliant. We are quick to put our party or candidate in a positive light, assume the best in our party or candidate, and give them the benefit of the doubt. Such is the art and science of the political spin.

How different it is in with our partners! What we normally do with politics is the exact opposite of what we do in our relationships. How far more likely is it for us to be critical, hurt or resentful when our partners do something we dislike. We walk around thinking about what our partner did and what was wrong about it. We are quick to see him or her in a negative light and put a negative spin on everything they do or say. Imagine how much happier we would be if we can put a political spin on what our partners do in our relationships as quickly as we do with our political party or candidates.

Negative Spin: He doesn’t like to share his feelings with me.
Political Spin: He likes to get right to the point as a way to help me. He prefers to show me that he loves me in non-verbal ways.

Negative Spin: He never spends any time with me! He’s bored with me.
Political Spin: He is working hard to provide for us. He loves me. I am so appreciative of all he does for us.

Negative Spin: There she goes again—nag, nag, nag.
Political Spin: She is helping me remember and keeping me organized so I can focus on other things. She has my back.

Negative Spin: She’s always telling me what to do or say. She doesn’t trust me.
Political Spin: She does trust me. It’s just her way of being supportive and trying to make things easier for me by sharing information she believes will get good results.

Whatever your partner says or does, put a political spin on it. See their actions or words only in a positive light. When you put your partner only in a positive light, you don’t get defensive. You don’t get angry. You don’t assume they are disrespecting you, that they don’t care about you or that they are not interested in you.

Try to listen to and understand them from the belief that “I know my partner loves me, and I know my partner wants the best for me.” You will be amazed at how your feelings toward your partner become much more calming and reassuring. When we can put a political spin on what our partner does in a relationship and assume the positive in every act or word, we will have a much better relationship.

Share this information with your partner. Both of you practice the above strategy. Challenge yourselves: How can you turn your partner’s negative into a positive? Continue to do this and, on election night, give each other a great victory speech.

Richard Drobnick, LCSW, DCSW is the director of the Mars & Venus Counseling Center. Contact us if you feel stuck and need professional help to create the relationships of your dreams.